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Information and Updates for the Iona Community on Coronavirus

Getting Help for a Friend

Sometimes you might start to worry about one of your friends. They just might not seem ok. Some changes to look out for include:

  • Sleeping (too much or too little)
  • Eating (too much or too little)
  • Not keeping up with responsibilities
  • Changes in social interaction (disinterest, hostility)
  • Increased substance use
  • Relationship changes
  • Overt signs of distress
  • Mood fluctuation
  • Self-injury
  • Thoughts of suicide

Warning Signs

How to recognize warning signs of suicide:

  • A pattern of talking about, asking questions about, or posting about death, dying and suicide
  • Expressions of hopelessness
  • Giving valued possessions away
  • Saying goodbye, or making statements about events being unimportant because the person will not be around
  • Dramatic language desensitizes us to true signs of danger. Don’t dismiss extreme statements as meaningless.
  • If someone tells you that you need to keep his or her suicidal intentions a secret, please do not keep that secret. Under no circumstances can you keep a secret that could cause someone's death. You are not violating a privileged communication; you are taking the steps necessary to prevent death. That is an expression of love, caring, and deep concern, and is the only ethical choice in a situation as serious as this.

How to Help

  • Start a conversation. Check-in. Describe the changes that you have noticed in your friend. Be specific about the behaviors that you observe.
  • Express your concern. Be supportive, not judgmental.
  • Reassure your friend that many people struggle with painful emotions.
  • Express that you believe your friend needs help.
  • Take it seriously. Get help.

Resources for Help

Who can help? You do not have to handle this alone, nor should you. Tell someone who is in a position of authority: they can provide the fastest response.

  • Campus Safety & Security: (914) 633-2560
  • Counseling Center: (914) 633-2038
  • Residential Life: (914) 633-2336
  • Off Campus & Commuter Services/Commuter Assistants: (914) 633-2243
  • Health Center: (914) 633-2548
  • Office of Student Development: (914) 633-2360
  • Mission & Ministry/Campus Ministers: (914) 633-2772
  • Faculty/Staff Members

Online Resources

Contact Us

Counseling Center

Spellman Hall, Room 4-203 (second floor)

Office Hours: Monday - Friday, 9 a.m. - 5 p.m.
Walk-in Hours: Monday - Friday, 1 p.m. - 4 p.m. or by appointment
Instagram: @ionacollegecounselingcenter

(914) 633-2038 (914) 633-2038